Showing posts with label South Carolina. Show all posts
Showing posts with label South Carolina. Show all posts

Monday, April 7, 2014

Leaving the Tunnel


A few weeks back, we returned from a trip to Savannah, Georgia and Beaufort, South Carolina. A visit to the old South, as people would say, enjoying the parks and public squares of Savannah, the stately homes around the square, enjoying the tours particularly the pirate house and other interesting legends like the Williams Mercer residence, the subject of a book and a film directed by Clint Eastwood. My memories of the so called American South did come from the book “Midnight in the Garden of Good and Evil”, the gothic atmosphere, the decadent and aristocratic city recovering from the Civil War, an update on “Gone with the Wind”, where the landed elite lose their holdings amidst the destruction of  General Sherman’s army.  But it was a young town, with students from the surrounding universities, the playing bands in the squares, the music festival, young people lazing in the park, bring a youthful vibe reminiscent of New York, with both its greenery in its public spaces and the cosmopolitan taste of its food and culture. The trip was a welcome escape after the area contest I organized and dues payment deadline which I worked on the previous week.

I did not expect Beaufort to be more interesting than Savannah, but I was mistaken, enjoying first the beach and lighthouse at Huntington State Park, imagining life in a remote area beside the sea, with the museum on light keepers enough to trigger romantic images. The mansions in Beaufort were next after an excellent lunch of Shrimp and Grits, fried oysters, shrimp bisque; enjoying the waterfront and finally a tour on a horse led carriage, around the quaint settlement beside the Beaufort river, the guide talking about the history of its old houses. But Beaufort was a Union town, after Robert Small (later congressman) helped the Union army takeover the surrounding coastal areas, effectively blockading the South and stop any shipment of arms from European enemies. The pace was slow and leisurely, topping the surprise and enjoyment of the Savannah excursion, thinking that one must return and enjoy these old cities saved by Sherman who visited the area before the war, instead marching on and burning Columbia to the ground. The legacy of the Union presence is Parish Island, the training ground of the US marines; also the historic capital of the Spanish colonies, long before the English came and changed the history of the continent. 

After returning from the trip, one was engrossed with the problems at work, back to the grindstone, fighting issues and assaults from colleagues, finally settling on a system of more organized work, instead of the current turbulence. Last Saturday was the division speech contest, where I served as judge for 4 contests; enjoying the orations and glad my term as area governor is finally coming to an end. I was crazy to take on that role plus my new assignment at work, compounding my stress and increasing work load. I feel I am emerging from a tunnel, hopefully better organized, with more free time, instead of being dictated by problems, meetings and fighting fires.  The trip to the old South was refreshing, reconnecting mental images conjured in books, finally seeing the old coastal towns where ships from Europe crossed the Atlantic and berthed into the New World. During the road trip, as we travelled along  towns and highways, we listened to F. Scott Fitzgerald’s ‘The Great Gatzby’, possibly the great American Novel, equal to ‘Moby Dick’ and ‘Huckleberry Finn’, by exploring the way wealth corrupted the New World in its mad dash to supremacy. ‘The business of America is business,’ said Tocqueville.

I felt a connection to the old towns of the South and Jay Gatzby, the drive to accumulate wealth by vice, enriched by slavery in the cotton, indigo and rice plantations, transforming the local planters into a landed gentry but eventually destroyed by war; the cleansing of an evil, the stately homes now owned by carpetbaggers as the old aristocratic families fled in the wake of Sherman’s destruction. There is history looking around the stately parks, the old churches, the ruins in Sheldon of the Anglican cathedral, of long lost grandeur and decaying mansions, the military presence in Parrish Island was like a lifeline, a sort of equalizer that started de-segregation in it’s ranks after the world wars, a lifeline for Jay Gatzby, too as he embarked on a quest of re-invention and wealth accumulation, perhaps like the slave owning plantation owners, with a sort of twisted purity of a lost time, only to perish in violence. It’s crazy to try to link the history of the south, with its stately homes and crumbling ruins, to a romantic hero chasing a gold digger, who also owned a mansion beside the sea. But there is the same core of purity amidst the corruption like living in the antebellum South with its soft gentle manners and cruel slavery.

Thursday, January 21, 2010

On Nothing to Do


Getting bored is the main problem one faces in a laid back place. At least for one who come from Asia where there is a lot of stimulation and distraction? Unfortunately, one finds himself in this position and wonders how is it that people could survive without much to do. Sometimes there are a lot of meetings scheduled but not much accomplished except communicate and ask for comments. I guess that’s how things move around here. The circumstances remind me of our Japan office with its long serving salary men. Is it because life here lacks stimulation or is there really some virtue on drawing things out slowly so everything is analyzed and well-thought off without rushing to a conclusion.


Asia is all about speed, energy and creativity. It is not a matter of aggressive, innovative desire but only a matter of survival. The pace of action often happens at the bottom, low end scale where people scrape and hustle to get above the poverty line. On the other hand, the creativity and energy here comes from the privileged middle class, where dot com entrepreneurs innovate to make themselves millions before thirty. This is the situation in both sides of the world. Unfortunately, it rarely exists in the South where the pace is slow and leisurely and even exclusive. A new comer is faced with the prospect of slowing down his pace and relaxing. Hence, what does one do?


I guess like me, one surfs the Internet, constantly reads and attends meetings. Hence, it is a good environment to experience new things and learn new skills. It’s a conscious slowdown of the mind. One feels left out from the ‘slow’ swirl of things, where old cliques thrive and diversity is not respected. It is the constant dilemma of the newcomer. But don’t get me wrong. There are very intelligent people around and new developments in the city to make it look modern and progressive. But it is just the natural inclination of people to take things easy. As one calls New Orleans the ‘Big Easy’ it’s a fitting metaphor about life in the South. What are the skills needed to survive?

Sometime I feel that the key skill is shooting the breeze, talking with fellow workers and exchanging views. One also needs to relax and meet people more. I guess the country or more accurately, its society prefers the outgoing and outspoken. People like these are the heroes, as they often strive to be characters and try to make things that work. It’s the stereotype of the citizens here – the epitome of the cowboys of Western lore. Communicating constantly is the challenge and one should be open and straightforward to be able to be communicative at the level of the natives here. But one has too many secrets, preferring a hidden life in the shadows of abuse. This is the main roadblock to openness and should be controlled.

Tuesday, June 2, 2009

Driving to Work


We have moved to our new house last Sunday. For the past 2 days I have been going home during lunch time. It’s a great feeling to be living in your own house. The drive back from the office is through the back roads and it’s a very pleasant drive. The road travels through rolling hills and fields with white fences in some areas like some farm lands one sees in the television series ‘Dallas’. There are large homes in the colonial design with some houses having elegant long columns in their porches. There are also stretches of forest, with tall trees on either side of the road. It feels great to drive through these lonely roads to the office early in the morning.



In some places there are small lakes amidst the rolling hills and trees and one cannot be blamed for feeling that this is some idyllic spot dropped from the heavens. For a developed country, it’s strange that one can still feel a sense of paradise amongst these pleasant green hills. The house is in a new subdivision and our lot faces an empty space where houses will be built soon. I saw the sun rise from my son’s bedroom as I prepared to leave for work. There are tall tress surrounding the subdivision at the back and the night is black. No one wanders out in the evenings and I guess everyone is asleep early so they can wake up early. It’s really a rural place but with the latest technology and science that money can buy.



I feel that my wife will like it here and I can’t wait for them to come over. Although the house seems modest by the standards here, it’s the best place we have lived so far. I hope my family will enjoy their stay here like in the past 2 places in Singapore. I hope my kids will enjoy the challenges and the novelty of living in all these different places. I am arranging for our stuff to be delivered in the weekend. The ship arrived yesterday into the port of Charleston and would take about 5-7 days to be delivered if all goes well at Customs. I also arranged to have my garbage bin delivered and begin with the sanitation service. I called a few people to have this done, even writing to the director of sanitation in the city.

I also had our windows measured so that the blinds can be installed this week. I feel bare without the blinds because people can see from the outside especially at night when the lights are on. I am sleeping on an air mattress close to the floor though my son is sleeping on a better air mattress than me. These past days we have been shopping in Wal-Mart for the things we need in the house. Yesterday I bought a waste basket, 2 shower caddy, 2 sets of bathroom hooks, 3 soup dishes, a baking pan, aluminum foil, 1 kitchen rug, 2 temporary tables, a dozen kitchen rags, a small indoor garbage bin, a cooking pot and cooking utensil among other things. I was one among the many shopping in Wal-Mart and I realized that I am really part of the rat race.



I feel slightly uneasy will all these spending. I have been frugal with all my expenses for the past 7 years. I guess Singapore is a great place to save because all the public utilities and services are subsidized by the state. But here everything needs to be paid for and the savings for the past 7 years are now being spent. I hope the sale of my flat will replenish my funds especially for the college education of my kids. I do not regret coming here and I am glad to be here despite the many expenses. But I know this will be a good experience for my kids especially adapting to the new places and learning how to drive. This will keep their mind of any stress they may feel with the new environment.
 
The people at work have been great and they have been helping me adjust. Not much pressure for the time being. So I spend most of my time reading documents, studying, writing emails and attending meetings. There are a lot of seminars being offered at work and I attend a few of them. It’s a great learning environment, far from the situation in my former jobs. I hope I can finalize the papers here for my kids so they can have a good future in case they decide to stay here for the long term. The next decade will be fun as I have more time to spend with my kids and see them grow. It’s great to be together at their age and experience new things and discover new places.


Wednesday, April 22, 2009

New Boss


I am starting to learn about my new boss after working with him for a few days. He is a soft-spoken and kind gentleman with a tough edge. I think he is one of those who people call a good ole boy. I met with some of my neighbors and the guy beside my cubicle is an Indian who used to support the system that will be replaced by the application I am working on. He said that my hands will be full for the next 3 years at least. Looks like the new application lacks a lot of features needed by the customer. So my boss really needs help from everyone that can lend a hand.

I worked on the documentation needed by quality and started on a few tasks that he assigned to me. I think I am adding some value with this work because he is freed from doing some work which he could spend better time doing other things. I think he is more like me, a bit disorganized and doing a lot of things. I am spending a lot of time meeting people and getting to know them. I guess that's part of adapting to the people and local culture. It takes a lot of time and sometimes I feel awkward and that I might say the wrong thing. I think my boss and I had a few awkward moments but I think we are both mature enough to get over it.

He will be on leave next week and I am left minding the store so to speak. I am checking my access to the help desk tools which I need to get me going to support the application. There is still a long way to go before I get up to speed. I think I made some connections with the people I talked with this morning. It's a close community and I am surprised that most people know about my intimate details. I guess my record and history and family circumstances have been discussed around the coffee area. I guess this is what it means about living in a very close knit community.

It's really an entirely different world here and I did not realize how much different it is as compared to what I had imagined. There is no time for distraction because you have to focus on the job and get things done. For example, I was given Internet access but I discovered that it's extremely limited. I don't even have Internet mail access. So I have no time for procrastination and distraction. When I have nothing to do, I think I need to spend it networking or planning my work. I am getting to know more about the way things work here in the South. The images are known from movies and photographs but quite different living it here in actual reality.